As human beings we all screw up at certain points in our life and make mistakes. Yesterday I bumped into a woman whom I hadn’t seen in a while, but she was not the happy person I remembered; she was utterly miserable venting strongly about the hate she felt for the man who had left her and how he had destroyed her life.
I felt sorry for her and when I asked how long she had been separated, she said ten years! The way she spoke about it was like it had happened last week. I certainly understood the anger, but she was intent on nursing her wounds and not letting them heal. Hanging on to past hurts is like winning the booby prize. She got to be right about what a bad man did to her and how he had wronged her. She had a right to be angry and in her mind what he had done was unforgivable.
But what did all that being ‘right’ get her; nothing but daily misery. As I walked away I thought about the situation - would she rather be right and feel angry, or call up the courage of goodness, forgive and move on?
But let us not confuse forgiveness with allowing ourselves to be abused. More often than not we can learn from the past, feel the anger and then let the past be the past. We owe it to ourselves not to carry the heavy load of hurt from the past with us.
LET IT GO
BE BEAUTIFUL BE FREE
Gregory Landsman
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My Definition of REAL BEAUTY is…
B alance in life unfolds from the inside out
E nthusiasm lies within the way you think and feel about yourself and life
A cceptance is the path to making peace with yourself and others
U nderstanding who we are gives us clarity and wisdom
T rust attunes your heart and mind to know what you want
Y ou possess BEAUTY and all that it takes to create the life and love you deserve
‘Beauty is about feeling more, healing more, living more and loving more’
